Are you breaking God’s heart with your words?

Hi everyone. It’s been a while since I wrote a blog post. I’ve definitely been going through a season of challenges and discouragement and trying to hang onto my faith for dear life. But I felt led by God tonight to post a blog post about the words we speak. I was just getting ready to write a journal entry and then go to bed, but knowing the Lord, He always shows up during unexpected times. And when you are a writer, those times frequently occur during the middle of the night, or right before you go to bed. 😅 You become inspired to write. Lol. Writers block kicks in when you least want it to.

But what really hit home for me tonight (it’s 2am as I write this) was something the Lord dropped upon my spirit. Are you breaking God’s heart with your words? Let’s first absorb that for a moment. What comes to mind when you hear that phrase. Do you think of evil words that are spoken? Cursing or swearing, maybe? Well, what came to mind for me when the Lord dropped this in my spirit was are we breaking God’s heart with the negative words we speak and what we have to say about ourselves. I want to break this blog post down into two parts because it is so crucial that we begin to really investigate the words that are coming out of our mouths.

First part: Negative speaking about your circumstances

For me, I have become so consumed by this season of discouragement that I’ve been facing. When I say season of discouragement and challenges, I am no where implying that God has sent a season of discouragement upon me. I just wanted to clarify that. I refer to it as a season because I have been dealing with it constantly, and not taking it to God’s word and seeking His encouragement on these challenges. So today I finally came to grasp with it and realized all that I had been doing wrong and I want to quickly share that with you.

This year has been a really tough year as I have been seeking to overcome the hurts, pains and stress that life has thrown my way. I am on a road to healing and deliverance of all that God has for me. But rewind to the beginning of this year, I got so caught up in what began to frustrate me and what wasn’t going right in my life. I began getting upset at the things that had happened this year and the things that weren’t working out. I was speaking so many things. “I’m so frustrated.” “Can’t I just get a break?” “I don’t believe these types of things will ever stop happening to me.” “I’m so annoyed\mad about….” “I give up.” Even writing these words that I had previously spoken has made me realize why I was experiencing all of that pain. That’s not to say that my words caused the pain I was facing to happen in the first place. But my negative words only increased my negative thinking and drew me further away from a positive mindset. Thinking positive was unreachable because how far I had allowed myself to get away from speaking better things. I should have been encouraging myself. But to mellow out my frustrations, I should have gotten in the Word of God and spoke to all the challenges that I had been facing.

The aftermath of everything got to the point that the literal stress and pain that was affecting my spirit began affecting my body as well. I experienced several neck and back pains, and tried having the pain relieved through massage therapy. And a couple months later, when those pains started going away, I started experiencing loss of appetite, more stress and it affected my body totally. I wasn’t taking care of myself right, but you know what… I also believe that my negative speaking caused me to become physically ill. Now, most people don’t believe that your words can have these types of effects on you. But I believe that we can only speak so many negative things that it causes our body to begin releasing stress in ways that we may not know of. That’s just my personal experience, but I guarantee that your negative words can cause you more harm than good, and even some health issues.

Second part: Negative speaking about yourself

I believe that what we speak about ourselves we tend to believe. Proverbs 18:21 says that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Look at the tail end of tat scripture… “Those who love it will eat its fruit.” What this means is that the fruit of our speech can either be good or bad. We can speak good and positive things, and have good any positive results. Or we can speak negatives things and have exactly that. One of the artists I used to listen to referenced in his song, how we should be careful how we use our words because God spoke the word into existence with His words. So imagine what are words could be doing when we say them aloud. That doesn’t mean we are going to create material things out of nowhere. But it means that we have influence over the way we speak and think. We can speak good things into existence and train our mind into more of a positive mindset. Because when we speak things, we are actually affecting our mind and showing what we really believe.

Ephesians 4:29 says “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” So God is saying here that we shouldn’t let unwholesome talk come out of our mouths; and though I believe it applies to words that people use to swear or hurtful things that people say to other people, I strongly believe this applies to us as well. What are you saying about us yourself? Are you constantly calling yourself names? Degrading your looks, discouraging your ability, doubting the God-given gifts that God has placed within you? Think about the time that someone said something hurtful about you. Did you become convinced it was true? Well, I believe that when we speak negative things about ourselves, our mind starts to believe it.

Matthew 12:36, Jesus says “I tell you, on the day of judgement people will given account for every careless word they speak…” Why do we want to be judged for speaking words that weren’t uplifting? In other translations, the bible calls these careless words “idle”.

Let’s identify…what are you speaking? If it didn’t come from the Word of God, why are you speaking it? Why are you putting yourself down or even others for that matter? God didn’t say that about you…and God doesn’t believe that about that person you just put down.

Are you breaking God’s heart with your words? Are you discrediting yourself, putting down others or speaking unwholesome talk? Let’s be mindful this week as we go through our week. I challenge anyone who reads this post to really study these scriptures that I’m going to post below. And began to correct yourself when you start to feel the urge to speak something that is negative and not God’s best for you. Confession is real. We can speak so many good things into our lives, or we can speak much bad. I believe it is time to reprogram our minds and our speech to something that is edifying to God. Like the old saying “if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say at all.” Instead, let’s take it to the word of God and see what he has to say about our situation so we can starting declaring His promises over our lives.

Scriptures to meditate on this week:

Proverbs 18:21

Matthew 12:36

Ephesians 4:29

Words to uplift yourself

Jeremiah 29:11

Romans 8:28

Jeremiah 33:3

Here’s a little song to encourage you this week! Speak Life by Toby Mac

Photo credit to the whole



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